HELP MY HUSBAND HAS GOT WEAK ERECTION!!!

I usually would not like to start the week with stories like the one you are about to read. A lady sent this story via pillowtalkplus18@gmail.com, and asked that I publish it the following week. I would crave your indulgence that you read the story careful, It could be a lesson for someone to learn from. Please do not judge this person so that you wont be judge some day, an advice will be preferable to help a dying soul.

"Dear Pillowtalk

I know you wouldn't know me, I am not a regular  reader of your post, but a friend shared one of your post on sex before marriage, "Is sex before marriage right or wrong?" Mmmmmmmm

My name is Jessica, I have been married for the past 4 years now, I have always been in the opinion that keeping your virginity is the best so I maintained that opinion to keep my virginity until when i get the right man. When I  read your post and what the Holy  bible and the Quran is talking about sex before marriage I totally agree, but to be honest Its not the way is been painted in the Holy books.


I met my husband in my year one in the university when he proposed to me but I refused and told him I wanted to finish my education before settling down in marriage,  which he obliged me. Although my husband was never a virgin and I did not care about it and he too never knew I was a virgin, not until he tired to lure me while we were dating to go to bed with him and I refused and told him I was a virgin and wish to remain so until the right man comes. Do not get me wrong here am not a "Born again sister" is just my believe because at that time, I was always afraid of being used and dumped, getting pregnant or even contacting the dreaded HIV & AIDS infection.

He agreed(my husband) with me, I could see the anxiety in his eyes and the Joy of being the first man to taste the "honey pot", we maintained a sister, brother relationship and he went ahead with his usual hangouts with babes,  but never stop to showered so much love to me until I graduated from the University and went for my National Youth Service at that time preparations were  already on ground for the wine carrying and other traditional rites for marriage. To cut the long story short, we got married and life as a couple started.


Our wedding night was good, yeah! It was my first time to have sex, but during sex I noticed he wasn't fully erect as I see in movies or read in books so I was wondering but at the same time, I hear that anxiety could be a factor for weak erection so I never bothered, this style went on and on and so I was forced to ask him but he kept dodging the questions with so many grammars. Two years in to the marriage the issue of childlessness came in to play and we had to see the doctor, fortunately we were certified fit and were asked to be patient with God.

But I still could not understand why the weak erection, not until I  engaged a mail colleague with the topic of weak erection and if it was normal that all men had such problems most times, we spoke at length and I came to realize I needed help. Let me not bore you with some boring stories of weak erection. 

Emmy has always been a family friend and came to visit us one day but hubby was not at home and I had the opportunity to tell him all that transpired at home and told him I was sick and tired of  it.They was this silence in his voice and i thought to myself may be Emmy is aware of the situation and never wanted to disclose it on the contrary, Emmy had his eyes on me all this while but couldn't say it, because he has been my hubby's closest friend right from when I knew my husband. I became so closer to him than my husband after telling him the story, one thing led to another we had sex for once and I would tell you the truth I enjoyed sex and love making from that very day. Since then Emmy and I have been into each other.

I am very satisfied having him around me, in fact we are both happy with each other but Emmy is happier because he is single and threatens to take me out of my matrimonial home. For me I advised that every adult engage in sex with his or her partner before getting into marriage to avoid extra-marital affairs.

I continue to ask for God's forgiveness everyday of my life. Dear PillowTalk, I guess your readers would not castigate me for this act. My only fear is that my husband doesn't get to know it.

Thank you for the opportunity given  to me to share my story of  being a virgin for 25 years".

I read this Story and felt for the lady, its up to you readers to give her an honest advice, as it is now she is enjoying what she is doing although she is asking for forgiveness from God. It would be very bad if her husband gets to know.  I guess this was never envisaged when she was keeping her virginity for the best man. What can she do? Please send your comments to pillowtalkplus18@gmail.com

How To Make Him Love You More

Do you want to know how to make your man crave for you all the time? Do you want your relationship to really look like new every day? You may be thinking about you man 24/7, but is he always doing the same? Learn to mesmerize, create new and exciting things to make your man love you and think about you all the time. 

You may catch his eyes, but how can you ensure that he's hooked to you? How can you make him want you more f and love you for who you are?
Men are essentially more single-minded than women. Lets just say they don's see things the way women do.
So our task for this week is to keep him interested, and make him want you more and more. Here is your modus operandi to make him love you and crave for you the more, effortlessly.


# Be Busy
Never make it look like you are sitting by the phone waiting for his call, even if you are. Go out, meet people, start a hobby even if its just to get your mind off things.
And make sure he knows that you are as busy as a bee, as not only will it keep him intrigued by you, it will make him feel grateful for getting to spend a little time with you. In my years of having relationships with men, I have found out that no matter who you are, or what you do in life, you might be  a cleaner or sales girl in a supermarket, doesn't make you less somebody as far as it keeps you busy and brings food to your table daily, this will keep you off the phone sending him unnecessary messages and phone calls while he is busy at work. 
# Never show him that it bothers you
The biggest mistake most women make is to whine and nag at every given time"but why didn't you call last night/yesterday/ every hour/ who picked your calls"and all that. To bother him with questions is only going to push him away rather than make him love you more. A wistful "but you used to do it before..."is even worse. Remember, men hates questions about relationships, all the time.
In the beginning of every relationship, hormones are on overdrive and that would make him want you all the time. And without even realizing it, he would want to spend every waking moment with you. But relationship, like everything else, is progressive.
So it then goes into a stage where you're both comfortable with each other, which means you don't need to call or send messages to each other every few hours in order to feel loved.

# Feel good about yourself
If you are wondering how to make him crave for you all the time, wear something you feel desirable in, be it your favorite pair of jeans or a pair of sexy top. When you feel sexy, it always show! And he's going to reciprocate  the desire. But please do not over do it, for instance if he is not a fan of so much makeup and you have got a lot of colors on your face believe me it would so piss him off instead of making him love you more.
# Pay attention to you appearance
As shallow as this may sound, appearance its utmost important in relationship. You have to make a first impression or a good series of first impressions. It should be a while before you can let him see you with a bed head and no makeup.
# Don't give him more than he gives you.
Love, and inspiring a man to fall in love with you forever, is all about you being able to receive love.  Most of us only know how to give. We give for lots of reasons - because we're taught that's the way to get to a man's heart (it isn't ) because we see other women do it, and because  deep down, it feels uncomfortable and scary to be vulnerable enough to really get love. 
A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.
#Inflates his ego
This is an obvious one. Turn him on by complimenting him on what he 's wearing and how good he looks, lightly brush against his shoulders as you walk by, and make lots of eye contact and smoldering looks. knowing that a girl is smoking hot and that she desires him, will only make him want the girl, a.k.a you even more.

Remember, a guy may say he wants his space or that he needs to have some guy time without thinking about his girlfriend, but it isn't always true. You can accept it and move along. Or you can make him want you and be with you without even asking him to do that!
Just let him see that true confident girl that you are, and let him know that you don't really need him around all the time too.
Although they might be more tips you can discover yourself, but if you follow these tips, you won't be wondering how to make him crave for you or make him love you more , you will him beg to be around you every time!

Edited by PillowTalkPlus

Factors Affecting Low Libido in Couples

According to Weston, the definition of low libido is subjective--and defined by the person who has one"A man has to perceive his libido as low, and it has to be distressing to him, "A woman usually does not see low libido as a problem but instead sees it as an opportunity not to be interested in sex. Couples need not feel they have to have sex a certain number of times a week to have a good sex life. "It's really about compatibility," Weston says.

You may be experiencing a transition in yourself, from being an energetic individual with an interest in having sex, for someone who no longer yearns for sex. Low libido may put your relationship or marriage in the brink of collapsing. There are several factors responsible for reducing sex drive more common  ones  are physiological and psychological. Take a look at some of them however, there could be more factors.

Stress:  Stress is one of the common causes that could mar you in several forms. The body reacts to stress by releasing adrenaline and cortisol.  Stress from work, money troubles, caring for a sick family member and more. Chronic stress in particular can also reduce your libido by distracting you and taking your mind off sexual desire.

Depression: This can change the body's biochemistry and therefore reduce libido. It can lower your sex drive antidepressants. Men experience erection problems sometimes due to depression while women experience difficulty in reaching orgasm.

Low Self-Esteem:  It's hard to feel sexy when your self-confidence is drown or when you have an unhealthy body image. For instance, when you feel ashamed of being out of shape and believe that it may douse intimacy. One of the solutions for lifting your morale is working out, which also increases your sex drive.


Alcohol: A little of it may set the tone for intimacy at times, but not always. It can lower your sex drive, besides being a turn off for your partner. Same applies to drugs. Other drugs can decrease your sex drive  as well for example marijuana suppresses the pituitary gland, which regulates the production of testosterone.

Lack of Sleep: A good night's rest might be hard to come by, but you need sleep to keep a sharp mind. If you are not sleeping well it may result in low libido. Insomnia, sleep apnoea, sleeping difficulties results in low testosterone levels, reduced level of the hormone is responsible for low libido.


Medication: Some medications used to treat depression, high blood pressure, anti HIV drugs and other common illness can affect libido or disrupt your normal sexual functions.

Sexual disorders:  Sex disorders may lead to low libido by affecting sexual organs or brain functions. Sexual dysfunctions are also responsible for pain during intercourse, or they may lead to inability of orgasm.

Hormone Imbalance: Libido is directly influenced by testosterone levels. Therefore, low libido is often caused by low testosterone levels - a hormone imbalance.  Injury inflammation and tumors  in the testicles are the reasons for low testosterone in men.

Menopause: Women may experience low libido during menopause for a number of reasons Estrogen levels drop suddenly during these years, causing vaginal tissue to become dry. That, in turn can lead to discomfort and pain during intercourse and discourage a woman's sexual desire. Menopause can also lower testosterone, the hormone that boosts libido in women as well as man.

Health Conditions: Serious systemic illness, such as cancer or kidney disease, can suppress testosterone levels and reduce sperm production. Other illness, such as renal disease, HIV and diabetes are medical conditions that may also decrease libido.

Lack of Time: Have you ever been too busy for sex? The hectic schedules of daily life can put your sex life on the back burner. You should plan everyday activities in a way that allows time with your partner for intimacy.

Edited by Dr. N. Valentine

Is Sex Before Marriage Right or Wrong?

Whenever I am asked the question "Is sex before marriage right or wrong?"I sometimes avoid being asked or better still keep mute, all because most of us have had sex before marriage of have different ideas and interpretations on what the Holy books say about having sexual relationship before marriage.
Lets take it from the point of the predominant religions in our country Nigeria, there is no Hebrew or Greek word used in the Bible that precisely refers to sex before marriage. The Bible undeniably condemns the act of adultery and sexual immorality. So can we now say that sex before marriage is considered sexually immoral? According to 1st Corinthians 7:2 , "yes" is the clear answer : "But since there is so much immorality, each should have his own wife and each woman her own husband."In this verse, Paul states that marriage is the "cure"for sexual immorality.  First Corinthians is essentially saying that, because people cannot control themselves and so many are having immoral sex outside marriage, people should get married. Then they can fulfill their passions in a moral way.

Since this clearly includes sex before marriage in the definition of sexual immorality, all of the Bible verses that condemn sexual immorality as being sinful also condemns sex before marriage as sinful. Sex before marriage is included in the biblical definition of sexual immorality. There are numerous scriptures that declare sex before marriage to be sin. The Bible also promotes complete abstinence before marriage. Sex between husband and his wife is the only form of sexual relations of which God approves (Hebrews 13:4) "Let marriage be held in honour among all, and let the marriage bed be un-defiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous".


While the Holy Qur'an also made us to understand that sex before marriage in Islam is similar to what other religions like Christianity say concerning the topic. It is strictly forbidden and was created for marriage only. Forbidding pre-marital sexual relationship  is not simply a 'cultural or traditional"thing, it has a strong "moral"basis. This order of Allah (God) was intended to protect humans from themselves and from shaytan (satan). Much of Islam focuses on restraint and self control.
After marriage sexual relations (between a husband and wife, is permitted, but Islam also prescribes certain rules of sexual etiquette for the married couple. (i.e. not facing the Kabah during intercourse, the husband should not have sex with his wife during her menstruation, the wife should not deny her husband sexual pleasures (unless it is something prohibited in Islam) sex should begin with loving words, etc.
The Holy Qur'an and hadiths tell in greater detail punishment for zina (fornication, pre-marital sex, adultery) and the etiquette for sex in marriage as well. 
Having read what both books are saying about sex before marriage, it is clear that sex before marriage in both books give very similar answers to the topic in other words strongly condemn the act.
Besides religion, it is considered risky having sex before marriage with the high risk of sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV & AIDS, Syphilis etc.  Not every woman or man  you engage in sexual activities turns to become your spouse. "Be Warned".   

Source(s)
Holy Qur'an
"Nor come nigh to adultery for it is a shameful(deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)".
Qur'an 17:32

Holy Bible:
1 Corinthians 6:18(NIV)
"Flee from sexual  immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body
Hebrews 13:4 "Let marriage be held in honour among all , and let the marriage bed be undefiled , for God will Judge the sexually immoral and adulterous".
Corinthians 7:2