COMMON MARITAL PROBLEMS...

Relationships they say offer wonderful benefits, but none are without their own challenges. These challenges you would agree with me can put a strain on a couple, but working through them can either strengthen their bond or separate them, depending on how they handle the challenges they face. No two marriages have the same challenges and solutions, working through marriage problems in a healthy way can be very challenging, especially because stressors in a marriage can come from many different sources. The most common sources of marital problems are;

Money: Money as the root of all evil and at the same time being the source of happiness in most families, fighting over money  can constitute one of the most oft-cited marriage problems that couples face nowadays. Honestly speaking , when couples fight about money, their dispute is really symbolic of something different-power struggles, different values, or other issues that surround money. However in tough economic times, financial stress can actually cause more general stress, and more conflict over things unrelated to money, as well as money-centered arguments, example is when the other partner is extremely  stressed about money, they may may be less patient and more stressed in general; they may pick fights with the other partner about unrelated things even without realizing it! when such arises, try to remain calm, focus on solutions, work together as partners. Focus on accepting the situation you are in now, and working on a plan to get you a better financial future together. Its best for your marriage and money stress levels to remain calm when discussing finances. Keeping each other calm can help your marriage, and can help you solve your money problems. As you know two heads are better than one, and in marriage, it is important for the two of you to be on the same page when it comes to money. Work together to come up with a budget that will work for both of you, and stick to it. 
Children: The advent of children brings another potential source of marriage problems, especially in some part of the country where children are seen as tools for keeping the marriage going. Children are wonderful yes! and can bring wonderful meaningful gifts into our lives as it's often written "Children are precious gifts from God".
However, having children can also bring additional stress into a marriage because the care-taking of children requires more responsibility as well as a change in roles, provides more fodder for disagreement and strain, and reduces the amount of time available to bond as a couple. This combination can test even the strongest of bonds.
Daily Stress: Daily stressors don't need to equal marriage problems, but they can exacerbate problems that already exist. As with financial stress, general daily stress can test patience and optimism, leaving couples with less to give to one another emotionally.
Busy Schedules: Marriage problems can result from overly-busy schedules for a few reasons. First, couples who are very busy may find themselves with quality sleep and good food. Additionally, they may find themselves less connected because they have less time to spend together and more separateness in their lives. Finally, if they don't work together as a team ( even if their responsibilities are completely separate, if they don't coordinate to cover all responsibilities well), they may find themselves fighting over who's taking care of which household and social responsibilities. Again, while busy schedules don't automatically lead to problems, they don't present a challenge that needs to be worked through.
Poor Communication: Perhaps the biggest predicator of marriage problems is poor communication, or negative communication that belies damaging attitudes and dynamics within the relationship. Negative communication is so damaging, in fact with a very high degree of certainty which newly wed couples would later divorce, based on watching their communication dynamics for a few minutes! Healthy  communication is key; unhealthy communication can lead to major marriage problems. Effective communication skills should be mutual understanding and finding a solution that pleases both parties, not 'winning' the argument or 'being right'. 
Bad Habits: Sometimes couples experience marriage problems that could be solved if the two could notice their habits and change them.  People don't always make a concious decision to argue over petty things, nag and be critical, or leave  messes for the other to clean, for example. people just get into negative patterns of relating, fall into lazy personal habits, or get into a rut that they perpetuate out of habit.

MORE MISTAKES MEN DO DURING SEX....

Hello guys! The week is almost coming to an end. I hope you enjoyed last week's post "Mistakes Men Do During Sex that get them Screwed up". For those of  you who missed it, you can start reading from the previous post.  Today I would be taking on the concluding part of the post as promised. 

#GOING TO FAST

When you get to the penis-in vagina situation, the worst thing you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool - she'll soon feel like an assembly-line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly, with clean, straight, regular thrusts.

#GOING TOO HARD

If you bash your  great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback ridding concentrated into a few seconds.

#COMING TOO SOON

Every man's fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

#NOT COMING ENOUGH

It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her interest while you're playing Marathon man.

#ASKING IF SHE HAS COME

You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise, But if you really don't know, don't ask.

#PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY

Don't act like a giant  cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her clitoris.

#NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN

Men persist in doing this until she's eyeball-to-penis, hoping that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this. It's about three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

#NOT WARNING BEFORE YOU CLIMAX

Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes it. When she's performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do whats necessary.

#MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO

Don't thrust. She'll do all the moving during fellatio. Fellatio is the oral stimulation of the penis, using  your lips, tongues, boobs etc. You just lie there and don't grab her head.

#TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES

In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.

#MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES

Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all the hard is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn't feel quite so much like captain of a schooner. And let have a rest.

#ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT

This is how men earn a reputation for not being able to follow directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first, and don't think that being drunk is an excuse.

#TAKING PICTURES

When a man says, "can I take a photo of you?" she'll hear the words "-to show my buddies'. At least let her have custody of them.

#NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH

Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice cream and feathers are all handy props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no please.

#SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH
There is no less erotic noise. It's as sexy as a belching contest.


#ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES
If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she's Romanian gymnast, don't get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.

#LOOKING FOR HER PROSTRATE 
Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have a prostrate. Women don't.

#GIVING LOVE BITES
It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.

#BARKING INSTRUCTIONS
Don't shout encouragement like a coach with megaphone. It's not a big turn-on.

#TALKING DIRTY
It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor a 1-900 line. If she likes nasty talk, she'll let you know.

#NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES
Well guys you have  to finish the job, ladies make sure he finishes the job. keep on trying until you get it right, and she might even do the same for you.

#SQUASHING HER
Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too heavily, she will turn blue.

#THANKING HER
Never thank a woman for having sex with her, why do you need to thank her? Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.

MISTAKES MEN DO DURING SEX THAT GET THEM SCREWED UP!!!

Good looking, nice hair, clean shave, warm smiles etc. Is not enough to wow or  make that lady want more sex from you. I met a lady who dates an older man, she had told me she never enjoyed sex, may be because it's an older man, but believe me it doesn't work that way. I do not think age is the thing her , I feel it varies from persons. 

Some men get screwed up in bed not because they are not hot!!!! but because the fail to understand where the lady wants to be touched, I mean where it excites her the most. 

This is a must read for men, here are some of those mistakes you make during sex and get yourself screwed up!

#Not kissing First

Avoid kissing her lips for the erogenous zones makes her feel like your are paying by the hour and trying to get your money's worth by cutting out non essentials. It will surprise you to know that a proper kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.


#Blowing too hard in her ears
Admit it, some people would tell you girls love this. Well, there's a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you are trying to extinguish the candles on your 40th birthday cake. That hurts real bad.

#Not shaving
That is one part I hate the most, you often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, its not passion, it's avoidance so please take note for next time.

#Squeezing her Breast 
Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they got their hand on a pair. Always think of stroking, caressing and smoothing them.

#Biting her Nipples
Why do men fasten onto a woman's nipples, then clamp down like they are trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive to a woman. They can't stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good. pretending they're a dogie toy isn't. 

#Twiddling her Nipples
Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thump like you're trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breast, not just the exclamation part

#Ignoring the other parts of her body
A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs. There are vast areas of her body which you've ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown vagina. So start paying them some attention.

#Getting the hand trapped
Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you're going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.


#Leaving her a little present
Condom disposal is the man's responsibility. You wore it, so you store it.

#Attacking the Clitoris:
Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris

#Stopping for a break
Women, unlike men, don't pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

#Undressing her awkwardly 
Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid's toy.


#Giving her a wedgie during foreplay
Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

#Being obsessed with the Vagina
Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe that the vagina is where it's all at. No sooner is your hand down there than you're trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if you are not careful, it can hurt- so don't  get carried away. It's best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior of her vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her ans see if she likes it.

#Massaging too roughly
You're attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.


#Undressing prematurely
Don't force the issue by stripping before she's at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if its'just undoing a couple of buttons.

#Taking your pants off first
A man in socks and underpants is at his worst. lose the socks first.

Get more of Mistakes  men do during sex that get them screwed up on my next post.